Why Black Women’s Pain Still Gets Dismissed — Especially When a Celebrity Is Involved

Nylah Says
May 7
2 min read

BLACK WOMEN DEFEND FAMOUS POWERFUL BLACK MEN AT ALL COSTS.

With Black women holding the highest reported rates of sexual assault and molestation in this country, it never ceases to amaze me how often we ourselves will turn around and defend the very men accused of causing that harm — especially if he’s rich, famous, or fine.

Put ten Black women in a room and I promise you: at least six have a story to tell — a story that was ignored, covered up, or chalked up to “that’s just how it was back then.”

But the moment the man being accused has a little status?

A microphone?

A mouth full of big white teeth and a hit record?

Suddenly the entire tone changes.

Now he’s the victim.

Now the women are “doing too much”.

Now every single survivor is lying, bitter, broke, or “trying to bring a good Black man down.”

Let’s Talk About These Archetypes We Keep Protecting

We see it every time:

The son you coddle even when you know what he did to the neighborhood girls.
The daddy who never got checked because “that’s just how he talks.”
The uncle who couldn’t keep his hands to himself at family functions.
The pastor who “laid hands” in all the wrong ways — and still got a love offering.

And now, the celebrities.

The ones y’all will go to war defending online like you share a trust fund.

It’s giving generational protection of predators.

It’s giving “as long as he sings pretty or preaches good, we’ll pretend we don’t know.”

It’s giving trauma loyalty — and baby, it’s dangerous.